The Real Complication of Pregnancy

By Laurie Filipelli

My second miscarriage started in a Starbucks bathroom, and I couldn’t have felt more alone. Where to go from there? I drove home, took as much ibuprofen as I could stomach, and resolved to quit my stressful teaching job.

I found a new position at a nonprofit, training writers to teach in public schools. My husband, who’d always been an entrepreneur, continued to lead a startup that encouraged girls to dream big. Our jobs provided no health insurance, but we weren’t letting go of our aspirations. We looked at individual plans. The best was worse than bad. In Texas only $2,000 could be allocated toward expenses for a first child. I opted for COBRA coverage even as my premium went from $500 to $600 a month.

I could be insured for 18 months. We kept trying. I was diagnosed with antiphospholipid syndrome, a disorder in which the immune system mistakenly produces antibodies against normal proteins in the blood. The syndrome caused blood clots, and, for reasons unclear, pregnancy complications such as miscarriages and stillbirths. The outlook didn’t seem good.

One night in May, I woke at 2 a.m. and anxiously counted off days. It was too late. Our coverage would run out. We stopped trying. We went to a wedding in Dallas, and I indulged in more than one margarita. Feet dangling in a pool, I felt the freest I’d felt in a long, long time.

Of course I was pregnant. But I’d learned not to hope. Even as week five turned into weeks six and seven, we called the cells growing inside me “Maybe.” I reeled with nausea at the smell of barbecue and slept for fourteen hours a night, but we wondered if the pregnancy would stick.

It stuck. We went to see a specialist who found my blood work inconclusive. Instead of getting heparin injections, I could try a baby aspirin everyday. She monitored the pregnancy, and, with each visit, the ground beneath us felt surer.

I tried to push away worries about how we’d pay. But there was my due date: February 6th. My coverage would run out midnight, January 31st. We set out to educate ourselves on natural childbirth: we practiced positions, monitored my diet, and learned what questions to ask.

During the holidays, we wanted only to rest, and, in defiance of our financial situation, treated ourselves to a night at a posh downtown hotel. Everything sparkled. The glass was so clean that my husband slammed his face into a door on the way out. January 31st was like that door. The barrier was invisible, but everything changed on the other side.

On the morning of February 6th, at a routine monitoring, the tech went silent. My amniotic fluid had dropped to a two; normal was an eight. At the hospital I was to be given Cytotec, which we knew as an intense cervical softener unapproved by the FDA. Our doula had warned us not to accept it. Our doctor told us it was this or a C-section. And we knew what a C-section cost.

Morning rolled around and I still wasn’t dilated. Minute by minute, contraction by contraction, the hours passed. I threw up. I screamed. I slept for thirty seconds at a time, and awoke to waves of pain. Then, something shifted, and transition hit. She was in my arms: Eliana Hope. I could barely lift all six pounds seven ounces of her.

In the end we paid close to $20,000 out-of-pocket. When I asked for an itemized bill, I found we’d been charged $8 apiece for two ibuprofen I’d been so kindly offered. That small sting somehow hurt most. I thought of the nurse who held my hand through transition, the nurse who ran water in the sink until I relearned how to pee, who steadied me when my coltish legs wobbled. And I felt betrayed. My joy at becoming a parent was tainted with righteous anger. The real pregnancy complication, as it turned out, had little to do with a blood disorder, and everything to do with a system gone wrong.


Laurie Filipelli is a writer, editor and writing coach living in Austin, Texas. Her debut collection of poetry, Elseplace, was released by Brooklyn Arts Press in 2013. She was also a contestant in the 2013 Costs of Care Essay Contest.

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